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From every relationship, every opportunity, every “failure” we can learn something. Self-discovery is just the beginning to a life long romance with yourself.
Sometimes we have the stubbornness to need other people. By this I mean we are stubborn, or maybe oblivious to the realization that being alone is a bad thing. In times of solitude you can quiet your mind and discover what it is you really want, instead of focusing on how that might affect another person, or disrupt your life together. Learning to love your quirks and know what it is you want most out of life is alluring. You gain a confidence about you. Don’t be afraid to separate yourself from daily distractions, meditate, pray, relax, journal, whatever it is that you do to be alone and keep a clear mind. You may just discover that solitude is a refreshing change from a demanding life.
I was recently asked; “What did you learn?” when a relationship of mine ended. I learned that I was willing to sacrifice way more of my happiness than I would have eve done if I were alone. I was thinking about the future and telling myself; “I would stay here over the summer to be with him, even if that meant not going to Paris.” That’s crazy, I’ve been wanting to go to Paris since I can remember.I also learned that I need to partake in some self-love. I need to be okay with my body and myself first before I can share it with anyone else. I think that having someone to tell me I’m pretty even when I didn’t feel like I was beautiful, was flattering, but it was just a bandaid for the real pain that held my insecurities. I also learned that I really want to travel and I want to discover what it is that I want to do with my life. I want to be involved in Theatre, but what would be my role specifically? Now is a wonderful time to try and figure all of that out.
When I choose to be involved in another relationship I will have a clearer understanding of what I need to do. I need to be clear in my intentions and not be afraid to be honest. I learned that I want emotional intimacy as well as physical, and commitment on both ends.
I hope that you can allow yourself to learn and ask yourself what you want most out of this life and reevaluate and see if your relationships and actions match your answer. If not, what can you change and what can you accept?
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